Have you ever felt that you live in the middle of nowhere? Consider those who live within 120 miles of a discount retail chain. These places still exist, especially in some of the larger western states like Nevada, Utah, Idaho, Montana, eastern Washington, Arizona, Texas, New Mexico. For those who live in a larger metropolis, I know there are challenges like traffic on your way to work. However, some of us like me actually live 50K south of Woop Woop, an Australian slang phrase that means, in the middle of nowhere. After 18 years, I learned some tips to survive in this place where there is only one chain of supermarkets, expensive buffets for tourists who come to play computerized machines and a few small businesses for retail.
With the current economic situation, you may find yourself relocating to a place that is quite different from what you are used to. Here are some things to keep in mind.
1. Plan ahead.When you live far from easily accessible resources, look at your calendar and identify when a trip to the city is most strategic. Search the Internet for things you want to buy or do. When possible, use the Internet to make purchases and get things delivered to your door; This saves you a lot of time and energy (the shipping cost is worth it for the convenience). Think of events that may be occurring 4 weeks after the present. Make a list of what may be necessary so that a last minute purchase does not cost you more than you can afford (and the cost may not be economical, but your time and energy).
2. List the benefits. Sometimes living in an isolated place can be frustrating. For example, most of the time you can’t attend a play at the college theater when you hear about the event the day before. So when this kind of thing happens, it can be helpful to write down the benefits you have for living 50K south of Woop Woop. In my case, my husband has a satisfying job that has economic benefits for our family goals. I recognize that in many households both adults have full-time jobs just to make life work economically. I have the privilege of working part time in my own company. Being grateful for things of this nature helps me in those moments that I wish I could live anywhere but here.
3. Enjoy your moments in the city. When traveling to town, have a plan to keep you sane. Consider which locations you can accomplish the most. Know where you can give your children a place to release their energy or stress, such as a public park.
Four. Invite your friends to a retreat. What becomes common and ordinary for you has a different kind of wonder for others. Consider inviting a friend to visit with the idea that it can provide you with a place of respite. A couple of things happen: you are able to give yourself to someone you care about and these boomerangs bring you back. And your friend enjoys a healthy deviation from his routine.
5. Reframe your thinking. In other words, when the thought “I can’t bear to be in this place” occurs, take some action to change that thought. This is probably the hardest thing to do, and yet the most valuable thing you can do for yourself. No action works for all people, so space does not allow me to give suggestions on what will work for you. So, take some time to think about how to rephrase your thinking when you’re in a good mood, or email me for suggestions.
As a teenager, driving 120 miles to attend a special event seemed like a thousand miles. Now, driving for two hours to a discount retail store is the norm. I find audiobooks to be fabulous. Time is made to converse with my children or my husband without other distractions. My daughter can read for long periods of time while riding in the car. We also appreciate the diverse resources of a city, such as museums, large libraries and, of course, entertainment venues. Trying a new restaurant is an adventure and we have many opportunities for Dad to surprise us with a new place to explore.
It is possible to live in the middle of nowhere!